Top reasons why relation break up

If we consider the history of love, all of us would agree that boy and girl are different both psychologically and logically. However, the relationship would not continue if boy and girl do not come closer. The emotional desires unite boy and girl and relationship starts. Till the beginning of the twentieth century, relations were quite prevalent. Breakups were few and far in between. However, things started changing as more and more girls took up careers and achieved financial independence. The dependence of girls on boys declined and even small disagreements were magnified to a large extent that they were considered to be impinging on the individuality. Let us consider the reasons why break up.

·          Independence Desire

·          Attraction with another person.

·          Infidelity.

·          Physical incompatibility.

·          Less attracted to the person in a sexual way.

·          Lack of proper body maintenance, like becoming too fat.

·          Conflict in tastes and desires.

·          Continuous nagging.

·          Comparing the man or woman to others constantly

·          Imparting unsolicited advice all the time

·          Addiction to alcohol or drugs

·          Deterioration in the health of one spouse or suffering from incurable ailments like HIV

·          Physical and mental abuse and exhibiting sadistic tendencies

·          Ignoring or showing disrespect to friends and relatives of one spouse Impotency or inability to bear children.

The above reasons are all chief causes for relationship breakup breakup. Sometimes, one reason alone might be enough for breakup, while in several cases, a combination of a few of them lead to breakup. In this list, getting attracted to another person and infidelity might appear similar, but there is one important difference between them. In the former, the boy or the girl might become more interested in another person and might think of leading a life with that person as a better option to the current life. In this case, the decision for breakup from the present partner could be taken before a physical contact with the other person. On the other hand, infidelity is actual extra-marital relationship, which is a sure close relationship breaker in several cases.

In certain relations, when the boy and girl become closer without a physical attachment before the marriage, the physical incompatibility might become apparent when the relation is consummated, leading to breakup. Similarly, the impotency in boy or the inability of the girl to bear a child either immediately after the relation or after several years could result in a breakup. The reduction in physical desire after a few years had also been a cause for the breakup of the relation. If the health of the boy or girl deteriorates sharply or if they contract incurable diseases like HIV, the relation might fail. Even the neglect by a partner of maintaining the physical fitness and becoming too fat or too weak could break a relation.

Physical and mental abuse is another major reason for breakup. Sadistic tendencies in either partner that lead to continuous physical or mental torture usually ends in parting of ways. Too much addiction to alcohol or drugs had also led to relations failures in several cases. Too much nagging by a partner, and this is usually done more by girls than boys, had resulted in breakup very often. The other similar reasons are comparing the boy or the girl with other persons continuously and hurting the sentiments or creating an inferiority complex could also lead to breakup.

Even imparting unsolicited advice too often is considered as interference in the individuality, leading to disagreements. A joke is there that the psychiatrist charges you for the same advice that the partner gives you free. Too much of anything could spoil even a good relationship. Similarly, conflict in tastes and interests that were ignored during courtship or were considered trivial, assume a bigger shape after closer attachment and lead to conflicts. If the boy or the girl ignore or show disrespect to the friends and relations of the other, that results in misunderstanding and creates irritation. Slowly, the couple starts drifting apart in such circumstances and finally part ways totally.

Finally, the financial independence achieved by girl had brought in a change in their attitude. They feel that their individuality must be respected and should not be interfered with. Their economic dependence on boy is much less or non-existent compared to olden days when women stayed at home. Further, the separate careers result in boys and girls working in different places, thus increasing not only the physical distance but also the mental distance. This invariably leads to breakup. All these causes, either singly or in combination, end up in the couple breaking up. However, an understanding approach and a give-and-take policy would avoid breakup, if both boys and girls take a more tolerant attitude.